In less than 24 hours I’ll be called father to my first born daughter. So I feel like some place I should make a list of things I know at this point in my life.
Let’s start with prospective.. people judge based on senses. If you are big, small, thin or fat. You can be both beautiful and ugly at the same time. It’s all based on character. I have witnessed the shock of being young and falling madly in lust with a person who I couldn’t keep my eyes off of.
sometimes it’s strikes like lightning and really it’s a good feeling to have..however understanding that actions are important it’s important to know that lust is chemical. It’s not love but more so physical obsession and while it can feel amazing it’s also temporary. It can and does fade.. now real love and really relating with someone that takes time and really can go beyond lust. Real love and true friendships are both rare and always complicated but soooo worth the effort when you find them.
yet with prospective understanding that part should also come the vital part of understanding it works both ways. You will hate things based on fear, lack of understanding and hopefully thru experience of interaction. Not everyone can love ice cream ya know. Yet it’s important to understand the why you will hate almost more so than the why you will love. Having a clear understanding of the why will lead to avoiding negative situations like that.
So same with liking something and being attracted to it you will learn to hate and try to avoid particular things in life. Perhaps you will hate a type of music or a type of food. It’s important to at the very least reaffirm the why. Fun fact.. the human body changes every 7 years.. so as a rule of thumb I made for myself.. I will every so often retry something I said in the past I didn’t like.
for example.. from the ages of 13-18 I hated going to the beach.. couldn’t stand the feeling of being hot,sand or being sticky and sweaty. When I turned about 20 or 19.. I tried it again and came to learn I liked the feeling of the sun on my skin again. Even now almost at 40 I much rather be out in the sun then deal with the night anymore.
don’t get me wrong..night has its own beauty to it also but at this point in my life I feel the energy from the sun just helps my mood better.